THE TRUTH ABOUT: MEN, COWS, & MILK
"Why By the Cow when you can get the milk for free"
WHAT BULLSHIT
Let me break this down: women are cows, men are…dairy farmers, they want milk. So we assume that they ONLY reason dairy farmers want cows is because they give milk. Would they still want the cows if they are giving the milk to someone else? Is the milk the same from all cows or is there a difference in milk from different cows. I can tell you know. Not all cows are alike. The milk is different. He might want milk but the right man will want it from you so badly that he will do anything, anything to have it. This cow farmer relationship is not one-sided. The Farmer must have a barn and a the ability to house the cow even if he is just renting.
OH and BTW MILK IS NOT SEX.
Let’s try the not so literal: Men wont’ marry you if you move in and live/sleep/cook for him before marriage. Here is the best advice, I can give: LIVE WITH THE MAN BEFORE MARRIAGE. Do not jump into a marriage with a man that you have not lived with for at least a year.
You know someone a little when you date, and a little when it is serious but it is not until you have lived with someone than it truly becomes apparent who they are. People can hide LOTS of things before marriage. It is a lot harder to do it when you living together.
You have to check this guy out from every angle. This is your opportunity to try him out. Make sure:
- The sex is great, he is always trying to please you, first.
- He really wants to know how your day is going.
- On most days he calls you at least once
- He should surprise you with little gifts (flowers, or small thoughtful items)
- he should talk long term (planning vacations, etc)
- He should not make a big purchase without at least asking your input
- He should not make career decisions without at least asking you your opinon
- You should see how he is to his friends, coworkers.
- Is he a slob? Do you want to spend your life cleaning up after him.
- Is he spendy? Does he spend everything that comes in the door
- How much does he have saved. Make sure you see the bank statements. Don’t take his word on it
Get the facts. Then make your decision.
The Truth About Choosing a Husband
For all you girls out there that think that your prince is going to find you some day. Give up. The prince that happens to stumble onto your doorstep is not the one that you want. You have to make your selection of a husband more carefully than you do choosing a college. A good husband supports you, lifts you up, makes you part of a team. A bad husband, can drag you down sap your energy.
DO NOT confuse marriage with romantic love. Romantic love is about falling in love, being in love and acting in a loving way. This is not marriage. Marriage is work. Love just makes it easier to bear the burden. Your life is easier with a solid partner that you love. But if you are torn between a man that is hot, and one that is stable. Choose Stability every time. Hot is great in a lover but fades quickly when you are faced with 2:00am feedings all by yourself.
A long term marriage is about a partnership. It is you and him against the world. You will have times when you won’t have enough money, or you have to make tough choices about medical decisions or family issues to deal with. You need someone who is going to take positive action. You are not always going to be able to take on everything. If you choose a husband that is squimenish, or a folder you will end up hating him in the long run.
If your man does any of these things RUN do not walk to the exit.
- if he folds under pressure: gets paralized by his decisions and doesn’t know what to do
- if he seeks other people’s opinions and relys on them instead of his own
- if he changes his opinion more than his socks
- if he can’t manage money,
- if he puts off execercising
- if he doesn’t see a doctor/dentist regularly
- if he feels that people who are less than him are there because they brought it on themselves
- if he has never had to prove himself (could be at school or sports) Has he always taken the easy way out?
- if he is grossed out by blood, puke or illness
- if he doesn’t take care of you when you are sick
- if he plans vacations with out you
The choice of a husband is yours. Do not let a man choose you or a prince find you. You are the one that is going to be most effected by a bad relationship. You have all the cards. You have what he wants (no not sex) Stability Men need women. Plain and simple. You are always in the driver’s seat.
