THE TRUTH ABOUT CATCHING A CHEATING SPOUSE: You have to trap them

In Washington, DC  there is a morning show that does this bit called "War of the Roses" basically the host calls up a suspected cheating boyfriend, says he has free flowers as a marketing campaign from a cell phone company and they can get a free dozen romantic red roses sent to anyone for free.  The guy usually sends it to someone else other than his girlfriend or wife.  There are a few variations on the theme:  an STD clinic calls to get the girlfriend to divulge the name of her partners in the last 30 days.  They are almost always bad news for the cheating partners.  http://hot995.com/cc-common/podcast/single_podcast.html?podcast=kane_guests.xml

My husband jokes all the time that he would get me for sure in a war of th roses.  Knowing me, I would probably try to order from the guy or end up sending the flowers to my mom or something like that.

Look if you think your significant love is cheating on you.  They probably are.  I believe that during the first few weeks of suspecting you should do some subtle checking.  Try picking up his phone when it rings and see if he reacts.  Any flicker and he’s a faker. 

Sign up for a service or something and give his email address to them and then you can check his email box under the pretense of looking for the activation email.  But the fact is that a cheater always wants to get caught.  All you have to do is give him enough rope to trip on.  Tell him you are going out of town and then come home early with food poisinging or something.