This is a message to all you girls out there looking for Mr. Right.  Your Prince Charming.  Your Night in Shining Armour. 

STOP. 

STOP LOOKING. 

STOP DREAMING. 

THE FANTASY IS JUST THAT A FANTASY.

Let me tell you the truth about how men find wives:  They get to certain age, that varies by location and is heavily influenced by the marriage age of his friends, family and collegues, they look around and say,”you are the one.”   Make no mistake about it men do not think about marriage in the same way that women do.  They do not spend their lives waiting for the PERFECT WOMAN.  They spend their pre marriage life searching for someone who will be low maintenance second and then best looking woman that they can get given their income/age/fitness first.

Now that is not to say that men will not fall legitimatly and passionaly and completelty in love. Sure they do.  They do it all the time.  That is why the divorce rate is so high in this country becuase men fall in love all the time.

If a man is below the MARRIAGE AGE then they are not serious.   The love you sure.  They say all the right things, intrduce you to his family, you move in togehter and then years pass and still no marriage propsal.  Why because he is not ready. 

Here is a quick quiz to see if the man you are dating is ready for marriage:

1.  Are is friends married?

2.  At his work, are the people who are in the same age/income level married?

3.  Ask him a trick question:  “Do you think [insert name of friend here] is too young to get married? 

If his friends are not married yet and most of the guys in the office his age are not married and he thinks that the friend is probably too young to get married then I can say with 100% confidence that this guy is not ready to get married.  period.  end of story.

I dated a guy for a while who was 28 and I was 22.  I really cared about him but he felt he was too young to get married.  Even though we would have made a good couple and would have had a boatload of fun, we ended up parting because he was just not ready for marriage and I would not let him waste my time anymore.

I checked back in with him years later and he was miserable and alone, dating inapproriate women and wondering why he ever let me go. 

I hate to say that I told him so….